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About Stefan Oskar Neff

STEFAN NEFF MISSION STATEMENT I truly believe that we all have gifts that always live beneath our souls, that is what makes us all unique in this world that we live in. My goal in life is to create abundance within all that I touch. To find true happiness comes from within our trust to ourselves that brings joy to our hearts with every breath we take towards greatness. True greatness is to give to others with kindness in our soul. My mission is to have business owners create massive success on many levels. Creating success in life, love, family and especially ourselves. Now for a little about my past life !! WHO IS STEFAN OSKAR NEFF I was married then divorced then remarried to the same woman again. I was born in 1969 in Richmond BC Canada. As far back as I remember when I was five years old I was a bed wetter until the age of twelve. I was always trying to hide this fact because my father would get angry with me, so I decided to hide my pee stained sheets in the washing machine so he wouldn't get mad at me. When I started elementary school I was told that I had a learning disabilities, I was a shudder and was dyslexic. When I tried to read and write, school became difficult in my life having other children tease me through out my childhood smelling pee on my clothes saying words like pee boy pee boy and being called stupid. This was a painful feeling in my life when I was growing up. One of my favourite things to do to escape my feelings in life was playing soccer as a child to release my anxiety in life, starting at the age of six years old. But I was always wondered why my father never came to my soccer games to watch me play. At times even my mother just dropped me off at the coaches house because she said she was to busy to drive me to my games. I often wondered when watching other mothers and father attending there children's games and asking myself why only me then tears would run down my cheeks with pain in my heart, wanting my parents to see me play the game I loved so much. I remembered when I was seven years old sitting on my parents bed by myself playing with a box of wooden matches wondering what would happen if I started a fire on there bed. When the fire started to grow I began to panic in fear and went and sat down in the living room beside my parents like there was nothing wrong. As time went on my father could smell smoke and found there bed was on fire, he managed to drag the mattress outside of the house. My father was so angry his face turned into a different person, asking who did this looking at me did you do this, and I answered with a nervous look on my face trembling with fear, and said I did it I was playing with matches. I remember my father taking his belt off of his waist and hitting me many times and told me why did you make me belt you with anger in his eyes. In my teenage years I continued to play soccer as well as basketball never once my father saying great job son always wondering if had got in trouble this was a painful time of my life growing up never being good enough for my father. In high school I began to rebel against my parents started smoking cigarettes drinking alcohol and doing drugs to escape from my pains in my life. When I was twenty three I had my first son with out seeing him born and meeting him for the first time when he was three years old calling someone else daddy, I was blaming others for my problem in life continuing to abuse drugs and alcohol wondering why this was happening to me why me I asked as I looked to the sky with tears in my eyes. When I was twenty eight my son started to visit me more often now five years old. I soon found out that his mother was abusing drugs to the point of being homeless with our son. I took it upon myself to enrol our son into kindergarten at the same elementary school I attended when I was a child. Soon after his mother became homeless and was living at her drug dealers house turning to a life of crime for the drugs that she needed. I took on the responsibility of carrying for my son on my own but still abusing marijuana myself. I had a strong hatred towards his mother for leaving me to raise our son without love in his life. I didn't know how to care for my son even though I loved him so much. When I was twenty nine I meet a Japanese women at my family's home, were I feel in in love with this beautiful woman, and started on a journey of pain, fear, abuse and love. I traveled to Japan for the next few years before marrying in Japan in the year 2000. When we got married she stayed in Japan and I came back without my wife. This was a painful feelings within me all over again thinking from my past. When I arrived in Canada people asked me where is your wife, I lied to my family and friends about my true thoughts and feelings holding them within me. I continue to abuse marijuana and alcoholic to hide my pains from myself and failing as a father with my son. When my wife decided to come to live in Canada she wanted to have a child and immigrate to Canada. But I didn't want to help her with the paper work that needed to be done, I told her that you can do it on your own because I didn't know how to fill out the paper work and she could pay someone to do it for her. I said to her you have more money than me to pay for it so do it yourself with anger in my voice. As time went on she became pregnant with our child, she asked me if we could go to the doctor with a reply do you have medical insurance of course I knew she didn't. I didn't want to go to the doctor because I was afraid I might need to pay. All I wanted to do is save my money for drugs and alcohol and run away from my responsibility in life. Six months before our son was born my wife's farther was ill and dying with cancer in Japan, she decided to return and see her farther for the time he had left in his life. I was so angry with her decision to leave me again because I thought that she wasn't going to return to Canada ever again. Her father past away a few months later before he could see his only grandson born. My fears became my reality when my wife decided to stay in Japan. So I decided to go to Japan and try to convince her to return with me to Canada with anger in my heart because I didn't want to be a failure in my life. I found there was no love in her heart for me anymore, I made an excuse that I needed to return to Canada to look after my son in Canada because he was sick and make arrangements to move to Japan, but this was a lie so I could escape from my responsibility as a father and as a husband. There was a time in our sons life where he want see his father when he was two years old wondering who his father was. During this time my older son was losing his father to drugs and alcohol wondering if his father was going to leave him behind like his mother did, My wife decided to come back to Canada for one reason only this was to get a divorce from me. I tried to make it work with love towards my son to make her love me again. This was a hopeless feeling in my life she was ready to move on with her life she hated me so much that she couldn't even look at me anymore. I knew at that moment there was no more love in her heart, I had drove her away for ever. It felt like I was dying inside. I singed the divorce papers and they left soon thereafter seeming that I would never see my son again. I spent my time wallowing in my pains thinking that my life was a failure lying to people about what had happen between my wife and I. I said that she just didn't like Canada and missed Japan and was forcing me to move to Japan. I didn't send money, always promising but never doing what I said I was going to do for them. There came a time again my son wanted to see his father, so we set up Skype calls so he could see me once in a while and I started to send money to Japan. When our son was four years old he wanted to come and visit his family in Canada once again, but this time when they arrived in Canada they where put in jail at the Vancouver airport and were sent back to Japan in shame. We never spoke for month after that painful moment in her life, she hated Canada more than ever now. There came a time in our sons life that he really wanted to experience Canada for himself when he was six years old again wondering who is my father. Now my ex-wife decided to come back to Canada once again, when they arrived at the airport the immigration officers phoned me and asked me many questions about why they where coming to Canada if I was really who they said I was. Finally I saw them walking throw the gate with tears in my eyes thinking yes this is really happening finally after so many years of pain they are here, all the emotions came out from within me. The plain was they where going to stay for three month, but I wanted them to stay forever. As time went on our son was enjoying his time in Canada and wanted to stay longer and start going to school in Canada so I signed him up at the local elementary where I went when I was a child. This was a dream come for me but there was no love between his mother and I. For his mother to stay in Canada she needed to be a landed immigrant, the only way this was a possibility was for us to get married again but there was no love between us. Her love towards her son was so strong she decided to get married without love in her hearts to make our sons dreams come true. After we got married our anger towards each other grew more and more everyday. She wanted to move away from me, but they didn't know where to go. She asked me to pay for them to stay somewhere else. The disappointment of this feeling turned into anger and I began verbally abusing her I told her if you move on your own you can pay for it yourself. She phoned the police on me about my verbal abuse towards her and they told her if I wasn't hitting her that there was nothing that they could do to help her, they said verbal abuse isn't a crime in this country. She decided to leave and go to a transitional house for abused and homeless woman. This again was a moment of what I thought was betrayal, I said why me with anger in my heart. My family became angry with my wife for leaving me once again, protecting my feelings saying you did nothing wrong you are a good man. But deep down in my subconscious mind there was a feeling that my family was wrong to think this way. My wife and son stayed at the transitional house for there aloud time one month. I wasn't aloud to see them nor aloud to know where they were staying. There was a friend that my wife had that help us reconnect our lives to allow me see what I had to do as a father. I decided to pay for there small coach house where they were going to stay. Time went on in our lives our son started a new school. But I was an outsider now looking into a window of there life, wanting to be a part of there life but still thinking of myself. Living at my family's farm with my older son that didn't want his father to go away and leave him on his own to be raised by his grandmother. I would often stay overnight and try to be a guest father. But this was a painful feeling always looking into there lives through a window but feeling left out of there new life without me. Our son wanted to start playing soccer In 2010 this was something that create joy in my life like when I was a young boy. I was ask to become his soccer coach for this was a exciting feeling for me to give back and participate in my sons life in a positive way. This was a dream come true, I always wanted to become a coach. Then that same year our son wanted to go visit his family in Japan but his mother wasn't allowed to leave Canada until she had gotten her landed immigration papers done. So we sent him to Japan with the friend that help us through our difficult times. During the time our son was in Japan, just before the new year had started at 11:55 PM December 31st 2010 our life was turned upside down my wife had stop breathing and was near death with a unknown illness! I panicked with fear and didn't know what to do, I got her breathing again but she could talk nor walk. I picked her up in my arms and carried her to my car and took her to the hospital as fast as could. The doctors couldn't find anything wrong with her, but she still couldn't walk on her own or talk after they did so many test. They said that she could go home in the morning. When I brought her home she needed twenty four hour care this was the start of my healing process that was to care for someone else besides myself. What I didn't realize in 2009 that my wife was writing a blog about her life with her son without a father. People started to contact her asking her about the life that she was living in Canada. After her near death experience she started to change her life. In 2012 she was told that she had to stop writing her blog because some of my family members where getting upset about what was spoken to be truth. This allowed her started her online counselling with Japanese women all over the world. My wife told me she didn't need me anymore and that you needed to understand that I am going to happy no matter what you do in your life. If I wanted to be with her I needed to understand her feelings that she is going to be happy without me in her life. This is when we I realized that she had changed her life. This was really when we started work on our relationship with passion in our life and love in are hearts. I didn't want to continue looking through a window of there life from outside. I made the decision to stop looking through the window and begin a life without fear of being alone in this world, to feel joy in my life allow truth to live within me. In 2016 after coming back from Japan, I made a life changing decision to start working with my wife to change the world in how the universe creates our lives from what we believe to be our reality. We work on our relationship and business everyday to have growth and learning about who we are as human beings to allow the feeling of happiness that is our lives together now. THANK YOU LIFE 101 http://mbsy.co/hrmnv Businesseventbrite.com Abundanceambassador.ca #SmallBiz #Eventbrite #MakeYourMark #business #vancouver #toronto #calgary #Canada

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Creating Value In What You Sell!

Cost is only an issue in the absence of value!

The most important part of selling any product or service is to determine if it is priced correctly and ensure it is profitable. You may be selling your product or service for the same price as your competitors or your may be a lot lower… and you feel you should be charging higher but you are not! Most of it has to do with you under valuing what you are offering. And, when you under value what you are offering you will end up selling with a lack of confidence and not getting the orders!

The best way to determine value of what you sell is to ask yourself the powerful question, “What’s the cost to the client to not use my product or service?”If, the cost not to use you is substantially higher than the price you are selling for then you may have to raise your prices!

Of course, there will be those industries that say that by not using their product or service that the “cost not to do it” is priceless… like the health care or fitness industry. To not get fit or look after your health, you could say is priceless, but I would rather you look at what it costs to have one of the major illnesses; cancer, stroke, heart attack, etc. If you have a heart attack and were out of work and it cost you $150,000 for quadruple bypass surgery then paying $1,000 a month for a personal trainer is of extreme value!

Think about this for your own business, what is your value?

Simply put, if you cannot figure out your value then you do not know what you are selling!

The clearer you become on your value the more confident you will be at what you sell and the more you will sell!

The success of your business depends on your figuring out your value. Once you know your value you will never drop your price… you will actually find clients that value you what you are offering!

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7-Steps To Achieve Massive Success In Business – Step 7 Plus Bonus

Step 7: Grow Personally

I live by the principle that until you grow personally, it is not easy to grow professionally. Simply put, the more you work on yourself and expand your mindset, the quicker and more easily you will grow your business. One of the most common things I say from stage is, “Business is really simple, until you add human beings!” Yes, we make things extremely complicated. So, I encourage you to keep working on yourself and attend personal development workshops to increase your awareness about you. You will realize that the biggest challenge in your business is the way you think. The quicker you shift your thinking the sooner your business will achieve massive levels of success!

Bonus Step: Principles I Live By

I often get asked, “Colin, what is the number one principle that has contributed to your massive success?” It is a very simple answer:  I’ve followed and continue to follow all of the above steps and I never give up until I’ve achieved my goals.  I do not let anything get in my way.

Hurdles or challenges are opportunities to learn and I always ask the question, “What am I meant to learn from this situation?” I take the learning move on and continue to implement. I am results focused and not excuse poisoned.  I am always asking, “How can I?” versus saying “I can’t!”

Most of all I do not overthink everything!  My process is to think, make a decision and take action with urgency – there is no grass that grows under my feet!

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7-Steps To Achieve Massive Success In Business – Step 6

Step 6: Celebration, Acknowledgement & Recognition

This is probably the most neglected step in the entire process, and yet it is one of the most important. I live by universal principles which dictate that what you put out there is what you get back. Therefore, when you acknowledge and celebrate your successes, the Universe gives you more to celebrate about. I advise creating a daily habit whereby you celebrate what you achieved the day before to keep you on track and to get you into the habit of celebrating. Even the smallest of successes need to be celebrated to continue to put out into the Universe that you want more to celebrate – and guess what – it always delivers!

It is also essential to recognize your daily achievements and write them down. You will soon start to see that a bunch of small daily successes turns into massive recognition and acknowledgement for what you have achieved. You will be amazed what you have achieved on a monthly basis when you write them down daily.

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7-Steps To Achieve Massive Success In Business – Step 5

Step 5: Holding Yourself on Course

This is a vital part to getting the results you want and to achieving your vision for your business. You must find a group of like-minded business owners who can assist you with staying on track. Being a business owner can be extremely lonely and sometimes daunting, because you may not have a team around you to ask questions and receive good solid answers to grow your business. In fact, many business owners are embarrassed that their business is not truly making the money that they want, so often they do not discuss it with their spouse or significant other. We are all in business to make a difference in the world and make money, but doing it alone is not the easiest and quickest way to achieving your vision. Seek out business accountability groups, like B.E.S.T. Mindset, which work specifically with entrepreneurs, to ensure you achieve the success you want and the support that you are looking for.

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7-Steps To Achieve Massive Success In Business – Step 4

Step 4: Growing Your Knowledge

I wish we were born with every bit of knowledge that we need to be successful, but we are not. You need to continually grow your knowledge by learning from others who have achieved what you want to achieve. The powerful part about learning from others is that it saves you a ton of time and money – you do not have to make the same mistakes! There are many trainers and educators out there who can assist you; the critical part is to find the ones who have achieved success in the areas you are looking for advice. I personally have mentors assisting me to grow to the next level of success and I change them every now and again to bring on new mentors who have gone to even greater levels of success.

The challenging part I have both seen and experienced with people is that they ask for advice and attend seminars and trainings, yet they do not implement what they have learned. Implementation of what you have learned is vitally important. Otherwise, you are just wasting your time and money.  I have a formula that I like to use; whatever the duration of the training, ensure you put the same amount of time aside after it to implement all the new knowledge, strategies and systems. For example, if you go on a three day course, put aside the three days immediately after the course to implement everything.

 

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7-Steps To Achieve Massive Success In Business – Step 3

Step 3: Design a Plan

Once you have a vision for your business that you completely resonate with, I recommend writing down your plan to achieve your vision. If you are just starting out in business, always begin with a business plan which focuses on the next twelve months. Ideally you want a five year vision, but start with a one year plan, because within your first year your business in guaranteed to morph into something that you did not exactly envision, which is good.

I am a big fan of one page business plans to help your business grow. If you’d like to learn how to do this easily, I have created a one page plan for you to complete which you can download at http://www.My1PagePlan.com.

Remember, a business plan guides you along the journey to achieving your vision. It is like a road map or itinerary for your vacation. You cannot go on vacation without knowing where you are going and how you are going to get there. It is the same for your business, you must have a vision you resonate with and a plan that you can action to ensure you fulfill your vision.

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7-Steps to Massive Success in Business – Step 2

Step 2: Resonate With Your Goals

In order to be massively successful in your business, you must determine what you are targeting or aiming for. You must create a vision for your business. Whether you are a solopreneur or a business with multiple employees, you have to have a vision typed out and put up in your office for where your business is going. The vision is the big picture and where you want to be in the grand scheme of things. When you first start out in business, I am a firm believer that you should have a one year plan and a five year vision. Most business owners do not have a vision for their business, and in fact, most business owners plan their vacations in more detail than they plan their businesses!

Having no vision for your business is equivalent to having your entire family sitting in the fully loaded car waiting to go on vacation, locking up your house, jumping in the driver’s seat, having your spouse ask where you are going and you say on vacation. This means that you could be going anywhere! This scenario describes most business owners on a daily basis: They wake up and do business without a destination in mind. You cannot go on vacation without knowing where you are going and the mode of transport that you are going to use to get there, nor can you do so in your business. When you type out your vision and put it up in a prominent place, it allows your spouse, team, employees, clients and vendors know where you are going so that they are able assist you with fulfilling your vision.

The most important part of creating your vision is ensuring that you resonate with the end goal. This keeps you on target and does not allow you to be distracted by bright shiny objects. Many business owners often chase other opportunities or change businesses because they do not have an end goal with which they resonate. This is the most important part of any business plan and will keep you focused and on track to achieve your desired result.

Once you have the vision for your business created and written down, you can then add your mission, which is the step-by-step process for fulfilling your vision. A business with a vision that takes no action operates on hallucination and a business with a ton of action and no vision is clueless!