Remember, it takes at least two people to carry on a quarrel.
It’s difficult to remember in the heat of a disagreement that it takes two to quarrel. It may help to remember that no one can disagree with you while you are agreeing with them. This is not to suggest that you should compromise your principles. It is possible, however, to remain true to your beliefs while simultaneously searching for common ground that will enable you to work productively with others who may at first disagree with you. When others are upset with you or with a situation that involves you, let them know that you understand how they feel. Examine the problem from their point of view. What is the source of the conflict? How could it be resolved in a manner that would satisfy the interests of all involved? How have you contributed to the problem? When you try to find solutions instead of attempting to affix blame, others will almost always respond in kind.
What would you like your husband to cook for you?
I wanted my wife to give me a plate full of love and understanding for so many years!
There is more than one person who wants it more than ME “Love that is” we can give love without asking for love back in our lives. “What are you talking about”!
I gave so much understanding to my wife!
Is giving without expecting anything in return the question?
This was the most painful moments when I gave to my wife, “I can say with experience that I wanted my wife to appreciate everything that I gave her for so many years”.
What I got in return was more of the same NOTHING but wanting more that I didn’t want to give her because she was expecting more from me.
I didn’t care for myself worth in my life!
Again what the heck are talking about???
I was seeking attention from other people that I didn’t receive when I was a young child growing up!!!
This was my inner mechanism working overtime within ME!!!
MY SUBCONSCIOUS MIND!!!
In yesterday’s past thoughts I felt like a little man trapped in a country were no one understood my true feelings. All I wanted was to get a hair cut to feel good about myself. I asked my ex-wife for $20.00 to pay for the hair cut because I only had a little money to survive in this country that wasn’t my home. But I told her I had no money at all well this was a lie so I could still buy my cigarette and alcohol at night, when I needed to escape her silence towards me. I felt all alone with nobody to talk to in my time of sorrow and miserable existence that was my life. I got caught with money in my wallet because I went anyways to get a hair cut. I tried to say I Paid with a credit card but she said you don’t have one you lair. I felt like a small bug crawling beneath my feet and getting squished like a grape in a vinery. I couldn’t stand it anymore and began to walk towards the mountains in the distance wandering why am I supposed to do with my life, I have nothing to go back to. As I walk for miles and mile, there was a feeling in my mind going around like a swerving memory like I was in a movie or something. I walk at least 20 miles before I looked up and saw a road beside a river that lead up the mountain but not knowing it ended up. To my surprise I thought I saw in the distances a real monkey on the road going to the river well it was but not just one monkey, it was a trib of monkeys at least threety of them just minding there own business. I became afraid that were going to bite me or hurt me real bad. I heard in the distance what sounded like a motorcycle. I was a postman deliving the mail. I stopped him and asked will the try to bite me, he replied no they will be more afraid of you than you think they are. Just walk straight by them without looking at them and they will leave you alone. Well he was right as I walked by and looked back I said to myself why be afraid of what you don’t understand I stop walking and sat down beside the river and watch the family of monkeys just playing in the river with there baby monkeys having so much fun. This went on for 30 minutes or before I wanted to find the end of the road. I end my journey landing up at a place I would call a peaceful solution that I was looking for, It was a Buddhist temple if you can imagine at the base of this beautiful mountain side. I was apprehensive in wanting to knock on the door but my true feeling pushed forward towards the enterance. I was greeted with absolute peaceful thought of this is what I was looking for within my soul. I prayed with him like he was an angel sent to me for all that was good in this world. I had the steagth to go back and face the ex-wife once again. I felt a easy feeling over me at a moment that I needed it the most. I talked it out with the help from her sister. We spent more time talking about what was in the future for our new life in front of us. But by all means our life needed lots of work to be truly happy. We went back to my county with a plan.
In yesterday’s post I was only in a life of loneliness looking through a window that was closing on my soul. My ex-wife was on her last extension on her visitors visa in my country, so the only way for her and my son were able to stay in my world was for us to get remarried again without love in our soul. Of course she didn’t want to buy any means, but our son was attending school and making friends. I started the process of the paperwork to have a fake marriage put into motion and the Imigration paperwork done, for this wasn’t what I was imagining our life to be just a lie for all to see with transparency of moral imperfections of life without love. My life was becoming nothing more than a nightmare growing and management of money for there life in unhappiness forever more. After the fake marriage was continuing there was times where we started to get closer and closer everyday we had to be together. I started feel a small hope of love sparking within our lives, that gave hope and a peaceful feeling in our sons eyes. A lot of her time was spent on her dam computer for hours on end even into the night she was just typing away and not speaking much except for when she need money for her and our son.